Every Marriage is Made to Succeed

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Genesis 2:15-25
Then the LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to tend and keep it. And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, “Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat; but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.”  And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”  Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. NKJV

Why must it succeed?

It illustrates the Unity of the Godhead. Since that unity is succeeding this too must succeed.

It is God’s idea and He is behind it to make it succeed.

No man is complete without the woman, and no woman is complete without the man. The law of coexistence must make it to succeed.

It was God who provided the woman – God is the giver of all good and perfect gifts.

It is a trust relationship – that is why they were both naked – nothing to hide from one another.

But why are some falling apart?

 It is because they have neglected or abrogated the laws governing marriage and family building. There are seven laws about marriage:

1. Husbands love your wives, Wives reverence your husbands. - Ephesians 5

2. Accept what you have and stop looking for what you cannot get.

3. Be flexible. Don’t be starch, It kills! Life is full of adjustments and only adjustable people can adjust. It takes adjustments to keep the see-saw in balance.

4. Talk often. Communicate and be honest about it. Talk about everything. No secrets

5. Commit. Let every member of the family resolve to make it work. Nehemiah succeeded because “they all had the mind to work.” No family ever fails where all members resolve to make it work.

6. Make extra efforts to understand one another. You are different but your differences can be overcome by your resolution to understand one another. Keep in mind that the heart is deceitful (Jeremiah 17:9-10) but, under God’s guidance, it could be changed to a heart of flesh capable of love and understanding. To understand is to pardon and understanding is the secret of withstanding. Make the extra effort to understand your partner.

7. Make every member of the family feel very secure within the family. Security does not depend on how big the house is or how much money is in the bank; security is in knowing that God is leading you and you are following Him. Psalm 37:31 – The law of His God is in his heart and none of his steps shall slide.

The success of a marriage depends on the husband, the wife, and God. Undue interference from others will cause the couple to remain babes and never mature. Let us all pray for our marriages to succeed

God bless you all.